"To Life"

Perhaps it is because I miss my Grand-ma (and she is the one that introduced me to the writings of Rachel Remen), or perhaps it is because the connections are so profound, nevertheless this week I found myself flipping through the pages of my dog-eared copy of My Grandfather's Blessings-Stories of Strength, Refuge and Belonging. You know that moment when you find something you just knew you needed? Well, I had one of those moments when I read this story. I even read it to my twelve year old daughter and she did what I always do when I read Remen's stories, she said immediately "Can we read another?" So we did. I hope this blesses you as much as it did Grace and I!

"L'Chiam!" by Rachel Remen

Many years ago my grandfather gave me a silver wine goblet so small that it holds no more than a thimbleful of wine. Exquisitely engraved into its bowl is a bow with long ribbon streamers. It was made in Russia long ago. He gave it to me during one of the many afternoons when we sat together at the kitchen table in my parents' home memorizing phrases from his old books and discussing the nature of life. I was quite young then, no more than five or six, and when I became restless, he would revive my attention by bringing out the sacramental Concord grape wine he kept in the back of the refrigerator. He would fill my little beribboned wineglass with Manischevitz and then put a splash of wine into his own, a big silver ceremonial cup, generations old. Then we would offer a toast together. At the time, the only other celebration I knew was singing "Happy Birthday" and blowing out the candles. I loved this even better.

My grandfather had taught me the toast we used. It was a single Hebrew word, L'Chiam (pronounced le CHI yeem), which he told me meant "To life!" He always said it with great enthusiasm. "Is it to a happy life, Grandpa?" I had asked him once. He had shaken his head no. "It is just 'To life!' Neshume-le," he told me.

At first, this did not make a lot of sense to me, and I struggled to understand his meaning. "Is it like a prayer?" I asked uncertainly.

"Ah no, Neshume-ly," he told me. "We pray for the things we don't have. We already have life."

"But then why do we say this before we drink the wine?" He smiled at me fondly. "Grandpa!" I said, suddenly suspicious. "Did you make it up?" He chuckled and assured me that he had not. For thousands of years all over the world people have said this same word to each other before drinking wine together. It was a Jewish tradition.

I puzzled about this last for some time. "Is it written in the Bible, Grandpa?" I asked at last. "No, Neshume-ly," he said, "it is written in people's hearts." Seeing the confusion on my face, he told me that L'Chiam! meant that no matter what difficulty life brings, no matter how hard or painful or unfair life is, life is holy and worthy of celebration. "Even the wine is sweet to remind us that life is a blessing."

It has been almost fifty-five years since I last heard my grandfather's voice, but I remember the joy with which he toasted Life and the twinkle in his eye as he said L'Chiam! It has always seemed remarkable to me that such a toast could be offered for generations by a people for whom life has not been easy. But perhaps it can only be said by such people, and only those who have lost and suffered can truly understand its power.

L'Chiam! is a way of living life. As I've grown older, it seems less and less about celebrating life and more about the wisdom of choosing life. In the many years that I have been counseling people with cancer, I have seen people choose life again and again, despite loss and pain and difficulty. The same immutable joy I saw in my grandfather's eyes is there in them all.

Grandma Dot's Parenting Advice

My Grandma Dot was a beautiful lady inside and out. She loved the Lord and she loved her family and now, after a valiant battle with Alzheimer's, she is in the presence of both.

As I've sorted through the sentimental photos and papers that she hung onto through the years I found several copies of a single poem. Each copy with tattered edges, I imagine from being read over and over again. As one that was loved and taught by this wonderful woman I can attest to the fact that she did not just read these words but put them into practice. I hope we can all do the same not only for our children but for our grand-children...

If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.

If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight.

If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy.

If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty.

If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient.

If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to confide.

If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate.

If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice.

If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith.

If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself.

If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world.



Thank you Grandma for all the love and wisdom, I promise to ask the Lord to help me apply your wise counsel.

Blessings to you all this week,
Tracy Klehn

New Year New Talk

Happy New Year Ladies! I hope this new decade has gotten off to a "Magnificent" start for you and your family!

Have you made any New Years Resolutions? Do any of them have anything to do with taking the time to really enjoy life instead of simply survive life? Focusing a little more on your spiritual growth? Setting aside time to get "poured into" so you have something to "pour out" to your family?

Well I might have just the thing for you. This Thursday, January 7th, 2010 at 7pm I will be debuting a brand new talk that I hope will help "steady you" in the "storms of life." If you are in the Los Angeles area this week won't you consider joining me?

The event is called "31" and it is a women's event (hosted at NorthPark Community Church) that is open to the public. There will be music, fun, a teaching time and of course chocolate. Grab a few girlfriends and let's continue getting the year off to a "Magnificent" start!!!

For more details and directions click here

Blessings,
Tracy Klehn